In the UK, bereaved families often follow two basic steps: get a death certificate, and then arrange for a funeral. However, today, there are those who choose to break this tradition of organising a memorial service and opt for direct cremation or direct burial, without a ceremony.
Although there are many reasons why some families choose this, here are the most basic ones.
- Because of financial reasons
One of the leading reasons why the traditional way of remembering the death of a loved one is becoming less conventional is because of its expensiveness. Arranging for a memorial ceremony costs at least a few thousand pounds, excluding the fees that one has to pay to handle legal matters after the death of the departed.
Direct burial is a cheaper option because it does not require as much preparation as a typical wake, and therefore does not require the fees either.
- It is an escape from grief
Many would agree that seeing the body of the loved one is the most difficult part of a wake, especially if it is an open coffin ceremony. Direct burial or cremation, therefore, prevents the family and other invited loved ones from seeing the body, which, in a way, provides relief and an escape from grief.
Of course, there will be mourning, but having the body directly cremated or buried allows the bereaved to cope perhaps faster because the process needed to arrange for such is much shorter. Funeral service providers like Your Funeral Choice can get this arranged within just a few days, as opposed to arranging for a memorial service, which takes longer.
- It prevents the cancellation of a succeeding event
Some families who opt for direct burial or cremation choose to do so to prevent the cancellation of an event that has been scheduled to occur even before the death. In other words, these families do not wish to postpone any presumably joyful succeeding event because of the expected or otherwise death of a loved one.
- It allows a grief free “celebration”
There have been stories of families choosing to skip a memorial service so that they can commemorate the death of a loved one in a happier and joyful way, like a send-off, instead of in a mournful manner. There have been reports of UK families dressing up as the favourite characters of the departed, to honour the personality of the grieved.
- Other personal reasons
Famous people like English singer and songwriter David Bowie requested, before their death, to not have a funeral. There are many underlying reasons behind this, which may be a combination of the aforementioned, or completely personal, which only his family and their loved ones know.
There is a continuing shift in the way some milestones and life events are celebrated or commemorated. Because there are no laws governing tradition, it is mainly up to the person and the family whichever way they see fit to remember the death of a precious person in their lives.